BDSM is an umbrella term for all sorts of concencual erotic sadomasochistic activities practiced by willing adults. The abbreviation BDSM consists of multiple word pairs, each of them describing one central field in BDSM:
- BD – Bondage & Discipline.
The term bondage describes the act of restricting the physical movement of the submissive person as a part of other sexual activities with for example ropes, shackles and handcuffs. The term discipline describes the psychological restraining of the submissive. Different sorts of punishments (such as pain or humiliation) can be involved in these activities, should the submissive not succeed in the tasks they’ve been given. Disciplinary activities may also happen around the concept of training or schooling the submissive person to act as the dominant person demands.
- DS – Domination & Submission.
Dominance & submission are a set of behaviours and customs in which the submissive person gives away their control of themselves to the dominant person in a sexual context. It is more about the mental aspects of BDSM, such as building the mental connection between involved persons.
- SM – Sadism & Masochism.
Sadism & Masochism or sadomasochism describes the aspects of BDSM concerning the exchange of physical and/or emotional pain. Sadists get sexual pleasure from inflicting pain or humiliating another person, while the masochists get their pleasure from being hurt or humiliated or from suffering in a concencual scenario. Sadomasochism is probably the most misunderstood field in BDSM in the eyes of the general public. It is not about hurting the other person as violently as possible, but more about playing with the feelings involved in pain related activities in a sexual, concencual context instead. All masochists don’t even enjoy pain itself as they might enjoy the act of submitting by being hurt instead, and not all sadists want to hurt every single person they meet.
As the internet is full of information about BDSM in English and as our aim is to educate mainly the Finnish audience, we’ve decided to keep this section as brief as possible. However, should there be anything you’d like to ask, you can always contact Häkki’s board by email. We’re happy to help! 🙂
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